Strength in Numbers

I've spent a lot of time lately thinking about the immense power of human connection, especially within the context of how essential the members of my tribe are to me and my continued progress towards my goals. The support of my inner circle has been invaluable as I continue on my journey of self-improvement, and as I have spent time reflecting on the 'why' I have begun to see more and more how others have ( and continue to ) have the same experiences.

A Little Science, Mixed with a Little History

There are a multitude of scientific studies on the subject, but in my opinion this 2020 article from Psychology Today by Professor Emma Seppälä, PhD sums up the topic pretty well. In the article, Dr. Seppälä makes reference to the fact that some of the positive aspects of human connection are in fact genetic. Based on my experiences, this makes complete sense - having an open and honest conversation with any member of my inner circle has always provided a kind of therapeutic release and I always walk away from the conversation feeling better and lighter in many cases. 

History even shows us the value of the ability to share our true selves with others. It is widely believe that after a battle, Native American warriors would share their experiences around the fire with the tribe. It is believed this gave them the opportunity to process, and perhaps gain closure to the experiences during battle. I believe that this also proved to be a great gift to the tribe - to truly see the effect of battle on the young braves. It might have even provided a chance for the tribal elders to share their experiences and lessons learned from battles of the tribe's past. 

Regardless as to whether or not these stories are true or not, I believe they reinforce what we as human beings have known for millennia - our ability to connect with others continues to reap positive benefits.

Choose Your Tribe Carefully

Over the years, I have been very fortunate to maintain a pretty consistent inner circle. Each member has their strengths - whether it be an ability to listen and provide unbiased feedback or I know they're the one I can call on when I just need to unload and all I need in return in "Dude - that sucks…".  

On a personal note, I am especially fortunate to have had a member of my tribe for over 20 years. He knows me backwards and forwards, and has the ability to see beyond my emotional outbursts ( at times ) and help me get to the heart of whatever issue I'm dealing with at that time. Those conversations have proven more valuable to me over the years than I can ever put into words, and I am continually grateful for his friendship. 

If you're starting out on building your inner circle, look for people who can act as a mentor to you as a starting point. Not only do you want to ( ultimately ) build a tribe for the long-term, but you want to build that group to lift you up on your continued progression towards your best self. Unfortunately, in the early days as I was building my inner circle I included friends from earlier parts of my life as well as people who may not have been the best possible influence. These people, while they might be fun to be with or know your history, may not be able to give you the advice or push you will sometimes need to improve.

Remember - It’s a Two-Way Street

This may be self-explanatory, but I feel it's an important point to remind everyone who is on the Noble Alpha journey. Remember that as you have people who are members of your tribe, you may also be a member of their inner circle. As you've invited them into your circle because you find their careful feedback and ability to really hear what you're saying incredibly valuable, they may have extended the same privilege to you. 

If they have invited you to be a member of their inner circle, give them the same gifts they provide you - your complete attention and careful responses. This is something that can't be ignored or abused - don’t return the favor long enough and that valuable member of your tribe may not be so available in the future. 

In a world that seems to become more and more divided every day, remember this Noble Alpha - you are not alone. There is great power in our connection to our tribe - don’t be afraid to use it.

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